Grosputoire. It is often small gestures that give life a completely different path. In the case of Andreas Helm, his courage was to go to an event with Margot Kassmann and simply say hello to her. “I really wanted to leave, but an inner voice told me I had to stay,” Helm said at an event on Wednesday evening at Harzberghalle in Großbottwar. The city library is invited.
This develops into a special love affair, as the two were a couple before, but were only 15 years old at the time. After meeting in 2014, they both gave each other a second chance – and it worked out very well. So good that they wrote a book about it last year. You are now on a reading tour.
The two performed in front of the almost completely sold out Harzberghalle. This is something special, because Großbottwar is particularly considered a conservative evangelical church community. Margot Kasman became famous for her drunk driving in 2010. At that time, she drove through a red traffic light with a blood alcohol level of more than 1.5. “Many people today are still so reductive. She behaved in an exemplary way, and many politicians can take an example from that. Then she resigned from her position,” says Andreas Helm.
The book is designed as a dialogue
This has also given her life a new direction. It led her into a special relationship with her childhood sweetheart. The book they are reading from is designed as a dialogue between the two. Here they are not philosophizing about the time after their divorce, but rather talking about what was going through their heads at that time, how they felt, and what they treated. It is not a humanistic or theological treatise, it is an account of two people who, after their first family time, built a second life and a second family. Those who got close to each other and still keep their privacy and learned to forgive each other.
“Maybe it went well because we knew each other before. We no longer had to ask where you were from, what you were doing. We knew that. We also knew some other circles of friends,” says Margot Kasman. “They throw balls to each other.” Some during the show. They talk about their life together, which of course is also determined by Käßmann’s constant travels. She is still a sought-after speaker, and she still holds special positions in her church. She upholds her faith, opposes war and supports the ecumenical movement. She supports same-sex couples in the church. All of these Attitudes you can’t always score points at Großbottwar.Don’t contradict this evening.
It’s the little gestures that count
So it was a good thing that they both have very similar values and care about the same things. “You have to dare to change. But you can’t always do it alone. This also requires friends and relatives,” Kassmann says.
And again, it’s the small gestures that make the difference. “We can laugh together really well,” he says. For them, happiness lies in giving. You can’t understand something like that when you’re young. They see their age as an opportunity to better coexist with each other. You have learned not to blame yourself.
Both were born in the baby boom years between 1955 and 1965. Back then, people grew up with moon landings and Orion space patrols and pins. During the show, a hum passed through the hall again and again, the older audience understood very well what the two of them were talking about. And I felt connected to him. However, it is doubtful whether the same was also true of the Bonn Hofgarten demonstration in 1981 against the dual-track NATO decision.
It was an entirely Käßmann-style event. The topic was shown which was not always easy. How do two older people who were in a long-term relationship come together? How much attention is necessary and how much personal privacy can I keep? How do I make a new life without losing my old and familiar life?
All this, set up in a light lecture and enriched with personal experiences, results in a mixture that visitors at Harzberghalle were clearly happy to immerse themselves in. Margot Kassmann: “If we hadn’t traveled together, we wouldn’t have ended up here in Grosputoire.”
Tell us your love story
Adam and Eve in the Bible, Oedipus and Jocasta in Greek mythology, Cinderella and her prince in fairy tales, Tarzan and Jane in the movies and of course Romeo and Juliet in classic literature: everyone knows their love stories. They get stories under your skin and make you cry, also because of the sometimes tragic ending.
But it is often couples who are also food for thought, perhaps because their love is different. In the past there were no gay partnerships on the screens, but today there are some programs, such as “Princess Charming”, the lesbian version of the bachelorette. Above all, they show one thing: love is finding people who accept and love you just as you are – unconditionally.
And that’s what a new series from the Ludwigsburg county newspaper should be about: Show us what true love is! How did you meet each other? What makes your love so special? No matter if it’s small or big, get in touch with us and we’ll report it. Please send an email to [email protected] The editors reserve the right to choose. (pat)